Jessi Connolly on Writing and Social Media

Y’all. Today’s post is so full of goodness, I’m not going to waste your time with a long intro. Let’s just say Jessi is bringin’ the wisdom today. Grab a pen, take some notes and enjoy…

Jessi Connolly on Writing and Social Media

1. How do you keep social media from running your life? Is it a struggle for you? Any social media management tips?

Yessssss. I’ll tell you, I’m on both sides of the spectrum. I feel really strongly about living intentionally and in the present and do not want my kids to grow up looking at the back of an iPhone. BUT. I also don’t really buy into the hysteria that we’re ruining America by using instagram and twitter. I think time is changing and just like generations in the past have thought we were “ruining everything” with the invention of the phone and the computer, we need to change with culture to reach culture. I stay accountable to my husband and myself in this area. If he wants me off the phone, he’ll say. If I feel the pull to be a little more present, I make changes.

Jessi's husband hard at work.

Jessi’s husband hard at work.

But! I have two main tips for not letting it run me. I have to constantly go back to both of these and check myself.

#1. I put more emphasis on creating content rather than responding and I try to teach people how to treat me in this. I refuse to be a slave to a hundred comments and ignore my kids asking me to go on a walk with them. I rarely respond to blog comments, I reply to tweets and instagrams in bulk (once a day or once every other day) and I rarely respond to facebook comments and messages. I don’t want to come across rude in the slightest, but I do want to love my family well. And they win over someone asking me where I got the pen in the background of my picture.

#2. I schedule, schedule, schedule. I’m a planner and most everything I do online is planned. I schedule my tweets and my blog posts and our shop promotions and I will even keep a running list of things I want to say on twitter or Facebook. I don’t want to come across as methodical or too planned, but I know that if I’m not living well, I won’t create good content. Women who don’t live well and don’t have good content to blog about just enter into a yucky cycle of watching one another, blogging, and recycling their thoughts. I’ve been that lady and don’t want to live like that.

“If I’m not living well, I won’t create good content” <-- Click to Tweet!

2. What is your writing process? When do you write? How long does it take you to create a post?

I keep my list of blog topics running for months. I keep the ideas/titles stored till it feels right to write them. Then, I typically will set aside one weekend night (when we’re not busy with family or community) to write all the content for my posts for the week. This takes me 2-4 hours if I have a great week with full content. My blog content spans from design/shop posts to heavy heart posts, so not all of them take too long to write.

The Connolly Kids

The Connolly Kids

3. Do you have a blogging mentor or accountability group (formal or informal)? How have you created and fostered those relationships?

I’m big on teams! Hayley and I don’t just run Influence together, we bounce a lot of our online thoughts and plans off of one another. I also spend time in the Influence Network forums – interacting with other bloggers and writers and getting help from them, spurring one another on to fun stuff.

And I absolutely have women I respect and look to for different things. I really love watching Lisa Leonard build her brand and her family in an intertwined way. I love reading the wise stuff from Christine Hoover and the deep stuff my friend Ellen over at SweetWater. And of course – I’m really inspired by following Kat and EVERYTHING she does!

Writing tools of the trade.

Writing tools of the trade.

4. What is the best blogging advice you’ve received? (OR) What is the best blogging advice you could give?

The best blogging advice I can give is to speak life. I think the internet is a really wonderful and beautiful place when used as a tool to encourage and bless others. If you’re out for your own fame or to bless yourself, you will most likely be let down in the long run. Don’t waste your time and don’t waste your time online! Make your online life mean something!

Make your online life mean something! <--Click to Tweet!

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  1. I just want to say I was blessed by your real-life answers, Jessi. That blogging is sharing our LIFE and soul with the reader, not fueled by comments and retweets but knowing we shared gospel with a friend or stranger. Beautiful.

  2. I really needed to read this today. I’m determined to get more intentional about my writing and my personal/career goals. I know that being more organized is my style anyway, but I was afraid to be that way because I thought people would begin to feel my writing wasn’t genuine. Not anymore! I’m back to making YouTube and blogging on Sundays and then scheduling them to post like I used to. I need to make sure I’m out living this life God has given me, especially with my little gummie bear coming in December to make us a family of three! I may schedule well through December while I adjust to new mommyhood! Plus, a lot of my Influence sisters are stepping in to help by doing guest posts for me which is such a blessing! xoxo

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